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A blog can be a funny place–at the surface it’s simply a space full of pretty images, but at the core it’s a deeply personal art project, a reflection of life. Since this space has become increasingly personal for us, aside from just sharing recipes, we had been looking forward to sharing with you some joyous and life-changing news: a new baby!  Unfortunately, before we were able to share, hard news has taken the place of the good. We’ve been crushed by a miscarriage this week and are cocooned up in our home dealing with the sadness. We are left with the somewhat awkward feeling of wanting to share things like beautiful risotto dishes with you, not knowing how to share this other, raw, news.

We went in for our 8-week ultrasound and while the baby measured perfectly at 8 weeks, there was no heartbeat. We were stunned. It was like something out of a movie, or a book, or a nightmare – surely not real life. Suddenly, it was just the two of us again. It’s been a tearful week, sustained by the support of our family and friends. Our heart goes out to all of you who’ve experienced this in your lives. Indescribable, unless you’ve walked it.

A thread through it all has been food, ever present in our lives. When we found out we were pregnant, Alex almost immediately downloaded several pregnancy nutrition books to learn everything possible about eating for a healthy baby. Every bite of food you eat has the possibility of turning into the little brain cells in a new life! But food is bigger than nutritional components; it’s also celebration — as we were reminded while sharing great meals at Thanksgiving along the good news with our families. And food is comfort. Getting through this week has been just a little bit easier with a gift of tasty takeout sushi, warm cups of tea, and just a few bowls of peppermint ice cream. When our lives are on the highs and lows, food is always there to enhance and enrich the moments.

We aren’t sure what’s next for our family, but we remain faithful in God’s plan for our lives. Even the few weeks we had as a potential family of three were filled with a lot of joy, confirmation that we’ll love the sharing, growing, and learning that comes with a family.

Thank you to each and every one of you for your constant support and walking through life with us. We’re so grateful for you.
xo
Sonja and Alex

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About the Authors

Sonja Overhiser

Cookbook Author and writer

Sonja Overhiser is author of Pretty Simple Cooking, named one of the best healthy cookbooks of 2018. She’s host of the food podcast Small Bites and founder of the food blog A Couple Cooks. Featured from the TODAY Show to Bon Appetit, Sonja seeks to inspire adventurous eating to make the world a better place one bite at a time.

Alex Overhiser

Cookbook Author and photographer

Alex Overhiser is an acclaimed food photographer and author based in Indianapolis. He’s host of the food podcast Small Bites and founder of the recipe website A Couple Cooks. Featured from the TODAY Show to Bon Appetit, Alex is author of Pretty Simple Cooking, named one of the best vegetarian cookbooks by Epicurious.

98 Comments

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    Mary @ The Kitchen Paper
    December 12, 2013 at 12:11 am

    While I’ve only recently discovered your blog, and therefore feel like a stranger intruding on a private, somber moment, I hope you know what a loving community you have here to support you. This experience is nothing short of devastating, but I know you two can move forward, create life and love, and lean on each other through this tough time. I can’t wait to hear good news from you in the future! xo

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      Gloria
      December 12, 2013 at 10:28 am

      Praying this for you guys today:
      Isaiah 61:1-4
      1The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me,
      because the Lord has anointed me
      to bring good news to the poor;[a]
      he has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
      to proclaim liberty to the captives,
      and the opening of the prison to those who are bound;[b]
      2 to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor,
      and the day of vengeance of our God;
      to comfort all who mourn;
      3 to grant to those who mourn in Zion—
      to give them a beautiful headdress instead of ashes,
      the oil of gladness instead of mourning,
      the garment of praise instead of a faint spirit;
      that they may be called oaks of righteousness,
      the planting of the Lord, that he may be glorified.[c]
      4 They shall build up the ancient ruins;
      they shall raise up the former devastations;
      they shall repair the ruined cities,
      the devastations of many generations.

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        Sonja
        December 18, 2013 at 10:14 pm

        Thank you for the verse, Gloria! It’s very much a comfort to us in this time.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:12 pm

      Thank you so much, Mary! You are so kind to say so. We’re praying for good news in the future too. Thank you so much for reading!

  • Reply
    Ken G.
    December 12, 2013 at 12:15 am

    Our story was nearly identical. When it happens you pray that no one else will have to go through what you’ve experienced. I’m truly sorry my prayers weren’t answered.

    • Reply
      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:18 pm

      Oh, we’re so sorry to hear about your story too, Ken! Thank you so much for reaching out and sharing your journey.

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    L.M.
    December 12, 2013 at 12:37 am

    I am just a reader and do not know you at all, but I mean it when I say am so very sorry. It sucks and I am sorry that you now know this pain.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:18 pm

      Thank you! Even if we don’t know each other personally, we really appreciate you writing. Thanks so much for your kind thoughts.

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    andy
    December 12, 2013 at 12:48 am

    So sad to here.. You are both truly an inspiration to me. I look forward to checking your blog every night to see what new creative thoughts you have to share. My wife and I are currently trying to start a family and are finding things are not happening as quickly as we thought they would. At the end of the day, know that you are both great people and will make great parents.. Only time can tell when this will truly come to be a reality…

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:21 pm

      Thank you for sharing this, Andy! We’ve had similar struggles trying to start a family, so we know a little about where you’re at too! Thank you so much for reading our blog and for the very nice comment. We pray that you and your wife will soon have a little one of your own!

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    crescentia
    December 12, 2013 at 3:21 am

    I am so sorry about your loss. I will pray for you. tc

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:21 pm

      Thank you so much, Crescentia. We appreciate it so much!

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    Kathryn
    December 12, 2013 at 4:29 am

    My heart goes out to both of you, I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t even begin to imagine how you must be feeling right now. Sending lots of love your way xo

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:22 pm

      Thank you so much, Kathryn! We truly appreciate your support in this time. Many hugs :)

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    Maria
    December 12, 2013 at 4:33 am

    So, so sorry for you! My husband and I also lost a baby at around seven weeks after fertility treatments.
    Loss is so hard! Cocoon away for as long as you need to.
    Hugs!

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:24 pm

      Maria, we’re so sorry to hear about your loss too! Sounds like we have similar stories. Thank you so much for your note, it’s encouraging to know of others who have been through it!

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    Cristina
    December 12, 2013 at 5:01 am

    I am very sorry for your loss. One of my best friends had an experience similar to yours last year. Life now has been treating them well and she is now mom to a gorgeous one month old baby boy. Many hugs to you and good thoughts for the future.

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    Cristina
    December 12, 2013 at 5:30 am

    I hope I was not indelicate. When my friend R. lost her baby last year, we were mourning in our own way, but probably in a similar was as you are mourning now your loss. I did not mean to juxtappose these events side by side and I actually wanted to delete it the moment I posted it. It’s just that while reading you suddenly I felt vividly the memories of R.: the shock, the afternoon we spent together before she would go to the Hospital, the crushed hopes after years of her search for being a mother and the infinite and sad emptiness that stayed behind. Now finally magic has happened for her. I just hope and pray that magic will come in your path too, in whatever form it may happen.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:27 pm

      Cristina, goodness no, we did not find your comment indelicate at all! It is so encouraging to hear about those who have been through it but have since been blessed with a sweet family. What a gift these little ones are! Thank you so much for sharing this story.

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    Catherine
    December 12, 2013 at 5:30 am

    I lost my twins around the three month mark, the week of my birthday.

    Wishing both of you the best. Take all the time you need.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:29 pm

      Catherine, I’m so so sorry to hear about the loss of your twins. Thank you for sharing what must be an extremely difficult memory. We pray you’ve been able to experience healing. Thank you for sharing this and for the kind wishes.

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    Lindsay @ The Lean Green Bean
    December 12, 2013 at 6:29 am

    sending light and love your way. xoxo

    • Reply
      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:29 pm

      Thank you so much, Lindsay! We appreciate it so much.

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    Cintia
    December 12, 2013 at 7:17 am

    It happened to me also a couple of years ago, but i was 32 weeks preagnant…dificult but surely makes us stronger as a couple and everything :)
    You are beautiful couple and surely will be a lovely family!

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:31 pm

      Cintia, I can’t imagine the grief losing a little one at 32 weeks. I’m so incredibly sorry for loss. It is encouraging to hear that you are positive and have come out stronger. Thank you so much for sharing and for your kind note!

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    N M Burr
    December 12, 2013 at 7:42 am

    My heart goes out to both of you. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Proverbs 3:5-6

    • Reply
      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:32 pm

      Thank you so much! This verse is a favorite of ours and very encouraging in this time. Thanks for writing.

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    Shanna
    December 12, 2013 at 8:46 am

    Oh, you guys. I am so sorry. Beautifully, honestly written here, and I admire that so much. Praying for you and for great great comfort from The Comforter this minute.

    • Reply
      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:32 pm

      Thank you so much, Shanna. We so appreciate your kind words and prayers!

  • Reply
    Lindsey
    December 12, 2013 at 8:51 am

    I’m so very sorry.

    • Reply
      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:33 pm

      Thank you, Lindsey! We appreciate your support in this time.

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    Courtney
    December 12, 2013 at 8:52 am

    I’m so sorry, Sonja and Alex. I know I don’t have words to adequately comfort you, but please know you will be in my heart during this difficult time.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:34 pm

      Courtney, thank you so much. We’re so grateful for your friendship and support.

  • Reply
    Paige
    December 12, 2013 at 9:02 am

    Sending you so much love and healing. Thank you for your honesty.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:37 pm

      Thank you so much, Paige! We’re honored to share with such caring readers as yourself.

  • Reply
    Erin
    December 12, 2013 at 9:02 am

    You guys, I am so sorry to hear this news…sending you lots of love.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:37 pm

      Thank you so much, friend. We are so grateful for you and your support.

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    Kathryne
    December 12, 2013 at 9:09 am

    I’m deeply sorry for your loss, Sonja and Alex. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:39 pm

      Kathryne, thank you so much. We’re so grateful for your friendship and prayers. xo

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    Tieghan
    December 12, 2013 at 9:22 am

    I am so sorry. My mom has been through the same thing and I know first hand how hard it it. Hang in there and my prayers are with you!

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:41 pm

      Thank you so much, Tieghan, we appreciate it so much. How kind of you to support your mom in that difficult time! Thanks for thinking of us.

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    Samantha
    December 12, 2013 at 10:13 am

    I’m saddened to hear this news. So sorry for your loss. I enjoy reading your blog. Thank you for sharing your life with us readers! May the joy of the Lord be your strength.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:42 pm

      Thank you so much, Samantha! It is our pleasure to share our lives with wonderful readers like you. Thank you so much for reading and for taking the time to comment.

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    Meagan
    December 12, 2013 at 10:36 am

    My heart aches for you both! My brother and sister-in-law had a miscarriage before baby #3 came along … it’s so devastating. My thoughts and prayers are with you!

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:43 pm

      Meagan, I’m so sorry to hear about your brother and sister-in-law’s miscarriage. It is so hard that it can happen at any time to anyone. Thank you for sharing this, and for your prayers!

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    Lisa in Indy
    December 12, 2013 at 10:39 am

    Sonja and Alex,
    Condolences to you and your families for your loss. Keeping you in my prayers, Lisa

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:44 pm

      Thank you so much, Lisa. We so appreciate your kind thoughts and for reading over the years!

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    Linda Wagner @ Linda Wagner Nutrition
    December 12, 2013 at 11:55 am

    So sorry to hear this. Sending you lots of positive healing thoughts and energy. Candles, hot baths, tea…you’ll get through this. Lots of love, Linda

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:45 pm

      Thank you, Linda! We need all the healing thoughts we can get. Thank you for thinking of us in this time!

  • Reply
    Lanette
    December 12, 2013 at 12:06 pm

    You shared this so beautifully, thank you. I’m so sorry to read about your news. xoxo

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:46 pm

      Lanette, thanks so much for the kind words! We appreciate so much.

  • Reply
    elly
    December 12, 2013 at 12:16 pm

    I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and sending a lot of virtual hugs.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:48 pm

      Thank you, Elly! We’re feeling the virtual hug love. Thanks so much for your support in this time!

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    E
    December 12, 2013 at 1:12 pm

    I’m so sorry to read your news on the blog today. Holding space for you two in my heart as you navigate the “cheery” holiday season while your hearts are breaking.

    • Reply
      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:50 pm

      Thank you for this kind thought. Yes, it’s certainly a bit harder to be in the mood for festive parties this season — thanks for thinking of us in this time!

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    Holly
    December 12, 2013 at 1:59 pm

    I’m so sorry to read this. Prayers.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:50 pm

      Thank you so much, Holly. We truly appreciate your support!

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    Aimee @ small eats
    December 12, 2013 at 2:04 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Sonja and Alex.
    Thinking about you both and sending you good thoughts.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:51 pm

      Aimee, thank you so much! We really appreciate you thinking of us in this time.

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    Julie C.
    December 12, 2013 at 3:00 pm

    oh goodness. praying for you… such a sad, hard thing.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:52 pm

      Thank you so much for your prayers, Julie! We are grateful for your support.

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    ashley
    December 12, 2013 at 3:14 pm

    i’m so sorry. i know this must be so hard, and i know it’s not easy to share, but thank you for your vulnerability and openness. i know it helps others who are going through similar situations and i hope you feel supported through all of this. you’re in my prayers.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:54 pm

      Oh thank you, Ashley! It is comforting to know that sharing this news could help others feel supported in similar situations. We’ve felt surrounded by a sweet community of supporters and we’re so glad to count you as one of them. Thank you so much.

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    Stephanie @ Girl Versus Dough
    December 12, 2013 at 3:18 pm

    I am so, so sorry. I can’t even imagine how difficult this time must be, and I wish there was something I could do to make it better. Prayers and hugs to you both. xo

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:56 pm

      Thank you, Stephanie! Your sweet words are encouraging to us, so that is help in itself! We so appreciate your kind support and prayers. xo to you

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    Dixya @ Food, Pleasure, and Health
    December 12, 2013 at 5:45 pm

    im so sorry for your loss. keeping you both in my thoughts.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:57 pm

      Thank you so much, Dixya! We truly appreciate your support.

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    Christine
    December 12, 2013 at 8:16 pm

    As others have said, I may not know you, but I somehow share in your loss. Creating a family does not always happen as we plan, and great loss can come our way, but with love and support you will find even greater hope. My prayers are with you.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:58 pm

      Thank you, Christine! We agree, we have felt much more hopeful being surrounded by so many supportive and loving friends, family and readers. Thank you so much for your prayers.

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    Kel
    December 12, 2013 at 9:24 pm

    So very sorry!!

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 10:59 pm

      Thank you, Kel! We appreciate your kind thoughts.

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    Justin Knight
    December 12, 2013 at 9:40 pm

    No words. I am so very sorry to hear your news. I am praying for you two! Hold tight to each other.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 11:00 pm

      Thank you so much, Justin. We truly appreciate your support and prayers in this time. Thank you for thinking of us!

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    Hilary Baker
    December 12, 2013 at 10:33 pm

    I’m deeply sorry for your loss. Some babies just aren’t meant for this world. As you said, you already know god has a plan and knows what he is doing. Keep that trust in him. You will be blessed again.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 11:01 pm

      Thank you, Hilary! We are hopeful for what the future might hold for our family. Thank you so much for your kind words.

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    Megan
    December 13, 2013 at 1:13 am

    Hugs and prayers for both of you.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 11:02 pm

      Thank you, Megan! We appreciate it so much.

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    Katharine
    December 13, 2013 at 2:40 pm

    Sonja and Alex, I am so sorry to hear your news. Having been through a very similar situation, I can empathize with the pain and loss you are feeling now. It was the hardest thing I have ever gone through. Keep talking with each other; each person processes things differently and it took some time before my husband and I understood what the other was going through. I will be thinking of you and wish you peace.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 11:03 pm

      Katharine, thank you so much for sharing your experience, and I’m so sorry you had to go through it. It is so encouraging to hear from others who have been through something similar. We’re knee-deep in processing and will definitely take your advice! Thanks so much for the kind words.

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    sandra
    December 13, 2013 at 4:07 pm

    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know from experience that it is the hardest thing in the world to go through, but you have a family surrounding you, supporting you and that is really important.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 11:07 pm

      Sandra, I’m so sorry to hear about your experience too! Hard as it is, as you mentioned, the support of family, friends, and readers has been amazing. Thank you so much for reaching out.

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    Michelle
    December 13, 2013 at 7:33 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending love and hugs your way.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 11:08 pm

      Thank you so much, Michelle! We really appreciate your support in this time.

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    Christina
    December 14, 2013 at 6:30 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss. I know it is difficult to share; very few family members know about my miscarriage. I pray for you and hope you will find comfort and hope in God’s love.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 11:09 pm

      Thank you for your prayers, Christina! I’m so sorry to hear about your experience as well. I pray you’ve been able to find healing from it. Thank you for thinking of us in this time!

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    Pam
    December 14, 2013 at 9:04 pm

    I’m so so sorry for your loss.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 11:10 pm

      Thank you, Pam! It’s so kind of you to write – we appreciate hearing from you!

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    Ashley
    December 16, 2013 at 10:01 pm

    S+A – You guys. I am so incredibly sorry to hear this news. I don’t really have words that could possibly make this any easier but one thing I know is that you two are strong. And I know you will only become stronger because of this. My thoughts are with you + hugs are being sent your way. xo

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 11:11 pm

      Thank you so much, friend! We are so grateful for your friendship, and kind words like yours are helping us through this. Much love to you, xo

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    [email protected]
    December 17, 2013 at 10:56 am

    I know it must be so hard to think of anything positive right now but I hope my experience with this can help. I lost someone very special recently too; while it can not compare to your child, I found thinking of the positive possibilities for about moving forward from the lost incredibility helpful,
    I send my love and support your way.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 11:13 pm

      Belinda, thanks for sharing this! The loss of anyone close is so devastating – I’m so sorry to hear of your recent loss. I agree – a key to moving forward is staying positive and finding good where you can, hard as that is. Thank you so much for your support!

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    Anastacia
    December 17, 2013 at 4:20 pm

    My heart and prayers go out to both of you. Nothing can ever prepare you for times like this. Been strong and know we are all here for you. God’s plan sometimes doesn’t make sense but there is a reason for everything. It wasn’t meant to be right now.

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 11:15 pm

      Thank you, Anastacia! Yes, it’s difficult to understand the meaning behind things that can be so full of grief, but we do believe there is a plan for our family, though it’s hard to see now! Thanks so much for your encouragement.

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    Chef B
    December 18, 2013 at 1:59 pm

    I am sorry for your pain and loss. I know nothing I can say will really help, but I totally can relate because I have been there too. I remember feeling guilty about it. It is actually very common, but no woman usually talks about it. Will be keeping you both in my prayers. *Hugs*

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      Sonja
      December 18, 2013 at 11:20 pm

      Chef B, I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been through something similar as well! I pray you’ve been able to experience healing from such a loss. We agree, it is such a difficult thing to talk about – we have been surprised to learn of many people who have also experienced it too but not shared about it. Thank you so much for your kind encouragement and prayers – they mean so much to us.

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    Christie
    December 30, 2013 at 4:53 pm

    My friends,
    I am so sorry to hear this…so sorry. Please let me know if there is anything you need, once you emerge from your cocoon of healing.

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      Sonja
      January 2, 2014 at 7:58 pm

      Thank you so much, Christie. We truly appreciate your kind words and thoughts in this time. xo

  • Reply
    Katie
    January 5, 2014 at 11:29 am

    Thank you for your courage to share the grief of your loss in such a public forum. My husband and I experienced a miscarriage last fall and we still have yet to share with many people. The loss was devastating, but we found hope, comfort, and strength through the community God provided for us. The darkness will pass and I pray that you will not be overcome by fear as you search for God’s timing when becoming a family of three. The Thief wants to steal your joy, but God wants us to have a full life.

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